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7.5 billion people occupy this planet at time of writing. That’s a big number.

Each and everyone one of these people have a centre to their universe: Themselves.

We’re all stars in our own productions. And who can blame us? We’re the only character whose on stage every minute of everyday.

So how can we navigate life with these billions of different performances going on around us?

A good place to start: Appreciation.

We all want to feel important. And we all want to feel like we belong. As a result, appreciating those around us is perhaps the quickest way to make their day.

However… It’s not easy! Our default mode seems to be criticising and finding fault with the world around us. This is a hangover from the negative bias that kept our pre-historic ancestors safe from predators.

But the world is a safer place now! We’re unlikely to encounter a lion on our way to lunch.

So why not drop the negative bias. Crack a smile. And take a moment to appreciate those we meet.

Own the Morning

What marks a successful day?

Really it’s getting the one or two major tasks for the day ticked off. Usually there’s one task that if we can complete the day is a success.

But this is tough! We regularly fail.

We start the day with the best intentions. But as soon as we dip into our emails we get sucked down a rabbit hole.

Social media then gets involved.

Another hour slides by.

Time for lunch.

Gentle start to the afternoon. And the major task for the day is still burning a hole in our to do list.

We then complete a couple of the easier tasks we had planned.

Next, two hours spent batting back and forth emails.

And it’s 6pm. That’ll do.

Guess what? We didn’t do that one thing we needed to do.

This repeats day after day after day, and the important items pile up. As a result, we become busier and busier but somehow manage to get less done.

What if… Before we checked our emails in the morning. And before we even turned on our phone. We did the one thing. Everyday. As the first thing we do. What difference would that make?

I’d bet, if you did that for one week you would see a noticeable improvement in your quality of life. Do it for a month? A remarkably improvement. A year? The sky’s the limit.

Feeling good

We don’t get to choose what happens to us in this world. But we do get to choose how we feel about it. And why would you choose to feel anything other than good?

There’s a great story about Thomas Edison on the subject…

On 10th December, 1914 a huge explosion set fire to Edison’s factory. As the fire destroyed a lifetime of work, Edison calmly walked up to his son and said: “Go get your mother and all her friends. They’ll never see a fire like this again.”

His son objected, in disbelief. To which Edison replied: “It’s all right. We’ve just got rid of a lot of rubbish.”

The same resolve is available to us all. Yet we’re far too busy caught up in our own worries and anxieties to enjoy the view.

“We’ll look back and laugh at this” the saying goes… Well, why not laugh now?

Do the thing

We’ve all got that one thing, that we really need to do but never get round to.

The longer we wait, the more painful the idea of it becomes.

The solution:

Do the thing.

Make the call. Start the project. See the doctor. Quit the habit. Learn the skill.

And when that’s done? Do the next thing. And what will all this bring? Progress. If you can take this approach and apply it each morning, the days will lengthen, the worries will ease, and the smiles will return to our faces.

Everyone knows something you don’t

“If you’re the smartest person in the room, you’re in the wrong room” conventional wisdom tells us.

I’m not sure I agree.

There’s lots of different smarts: Book smart. High IQ. Emotionally intelligent. Street smart. Just to cover the common labels… There are also near infinite other smarts ranging from making-a-great-cup of tea smarts to driving-a-car smarts.

Our brains all work in different and wonderful ways. Each and every person we meet will be accomplished in many areas we are not and vice versa.

Remember, everyone knows something you don’t.

And through this lens that we can live a satisfied life. Grateful for our own smarts and quirks, and appreciative of the smarts and quirks of others. Never again must we worry if someone is more intelligent or possess a great vocabulary. Because the truth is: They’re different. Not better or worse. Just different.

Fasting as a reset

I recently completed a 5 day water fast, and honestly… It wasn’t fun. It was pretty miserable actually.

After reading extensively on the topic, on the benefits for longevity and even energy, I was excited to get started and push through the supposed hump in days two and three. These were indeed tough days, but day four was pretty tough too and on day five I still felt like I was moving in slow motion.

But I made it through. And as I broke the fast I was relieved. But also bemused at the lack of perceived benefits. It was only in the coming days that they started to come through:

  • My mood was fantastic after a good meal, and lasted for days.
  • I adopted a lot of good habits, post fast, that I’d previously let slip.
  • I became more in control of my time.

The fast worked as a brilliant reset, and has cemented itself as a positive experience in my mind despite five fairly bleak days. Bring on the next one…

Advice on reading

I was not much of a reader as a child.

My family always had a lot of books around, so I did clock up some reading time but my heart was never in it. I’m a twin, you see, and my twin sister happens to be a voracious reader. So that was her thing as a child. Mine was rolling in the mud or wetting the bed perhaps.

So I was off to a slow start with reading. But as I grew older, I heard more and more about the benefits of a daily reading habit. Through my early twenties (I’m 25 at time of writing) I tried a number of times to make the habit stick but it never quite worked…

Until, that is, I heard some fantastic advice on the subject from Naval Ravikant in his brilliant podcast episode with Shane Parish.

The advice was simply:

Read what you enjoy reading.

Simple. If you’re not enjoying a book, stop reading it. If a book doesn’t excite you, don’t start it. Read whatever you feel like rather than what you feel you have to. The important thing is to enjoy it. Over time, the more you read, you’ll naturally progress on to those books you feel you “should read”.

Narrative Value

Narrative Value- without a doubt my favourite new phrase from last year, learnt whilst at an “Intro to Buddhism” retreat in Northern India.

In this particular instance it was used to explain why the Buddhist’s teach that the Buddha was born out of his Mother’s armpit, and it means more or less: Adding to the story to help the concepts stick.

Such an eye opener.

I’d never thought particularly deeply about religion, or why there were different religions, or why it existed even, but this put it in to a new perspective for me:

Religions are guides to living a good life, and it’s the Narrative Value of the religious stories that helps them stick.

It was these very stories that embed religion so deeply in human society.

And for the most part? It worked. Good lives were lived. There were of course some bugs in the system, but that’s for another time.

Depollution & Covid-19

Every cloud has a silver lining ey?

At time of writing, the world is in the midst of its worst pandemic for more than a century, BUT it’s not all bad… There are some fantastic images coming out about the effect that the global quarantine is having on the planet:

There is of course still a huge unsolved problem when it comes to the environment and climate change, but I for one am encouraged by these signs. With upcoming revolutions such as the electric car, perhaps we’re not out of the game quite yet. All eyes on Elon…

Why our brains grew*

*one theory

TLDR: We learnt to cook…

Back in 2018 I read Sapiens, the global bestseller by Yuval Noah Harari. It’s such a fantastic book, and truly changed how I see the world. Yuval speaks of the rise and rapid ascent of Homo Sapiens after the cognitive revolution some 70,000 years ago. All of which was triggered by the amazing growth of the human brain.

One question that he did not answer, however, was “Why did our brains grow?”.

This unsolved mystery lay dormant in my mind for the next 18 months UNTIL earlier this year… I was reading the also fantastic Why We Eat (Too Much) by Andrew Jenkinson, in which he explores the fundamental issues in our diet today, and out of nowhere he had the answer to the question I’d spent so long pondering. He’s what he proposed:

  • If you take a 65kg human, a 65kg gorilla and a 65kg chimpanzee, then each of these will have roughly the same daily energy consumption, about 2,000kcal.
  • For each, this 2,000kcal will be split between the various organs.
  • The difference we see is that humans send 4 times as much energy to the brain. So the question is, how can they afford to do this given they have the same daily energy consumption?
  • The key, it turns out, is in the energy being sent to the gut. The gorilla and chimp have much larger guts due to the constant of processing of raw food, where as we… can cook.

A million years ago our ancestor, Homo Erectus, left the forest for the plains. With their improved line of sight, this change of lifestyle lead to an increasing development of tool usage that eventually led to the discovery of fire, and crucially, cooking. Cooking works as a sort of predigestion, as it makes the food easier for our bodies to break down. This reduced workload on their gut, freed up the energy and also time, as they didn’t need to spend all day grazing. That time was spent… Using their brains! And with the excess energy, the stage was set.

And so our brains grew. And here we are today, 7.5bn of us hurrying along with our business whilst clinging to this amazing planet, hurtling through space at 67,000 miles per hour. What a time to be alive.